ROBIN GEDDES LIFE COACHING
coaching from the inside out
One of the main reasons so many of us don’t step outside of our comfort zone is fear. Fear of failure, fear of being rejected, fear of not being enough and even fear of success; if I’m successful can I handle it? Remember this though – everyone else experiences fear too. Even the ones who appear to have it all are afraid of losing it all. Like their wealth, money or material possessions – or are afraid of getting old and hold on to their youth, until their health decides otherwise.
Fear maybe holding you back from stepping outside of your comfort zone. Like changing career, going for that job promotion, starting your own business or it could be just going to the gym or taking that exercise class for the first time.
You may experience fear based emotions like anxiety, worrying and self-doubt. But you know what is worse? Regret. Not following your dreams and doing all the things that you most want to do. This can lead to feeling like you are living an unfulfilled life – existing instead of living – same old shit just a different day!
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” – Les Brown
I know from personal experience that the thing I fear doing most, is usually the thing that I most need to do.
For example, here are some of my fears I have had to overcome and some of my internal dialogue at the time —
- Training to be a life coach – What if I fail the course? What will other people think?
- My first coaching client – What if I can’t help her? What if everything I have learned doesn’t work?
- Public Speaking – What if I freeze on stage? What if I forget my words? What if they can see how nervous I am?
Of course, most of this never happened.
My training course to become a Life Coach turned out to be one of the best experiences I have ever had. I have helped people overcome anxiety, depression, panic attacks, addiction and low self-esteem. Helping and guiding them to live the life they are most capable of. I now help children as young as 8 years old overcome the same things that many adults are struggling to deal with. I don’t say this to boast, I share it with you because if I had given into my fears and just lived inside of my comfort zone, all of this would have remained inside of me as hopes, dreams and ideas. Leaving me unfulfilled and living a life of regret and mediocrity. More importantly, I would never have had the opportunity to help all those I have worked with.
My first coaching client suffered from anxiety and panic attacks while going to the Supermarket. The following day after her session she visited the Supermarket – completely free from her anxiety!
My public speaking is still a work in progress, I did freeze on stage, I did forget my words but just got on with it and received more positive feedback than I could have ever imagined. It is, becoming easier every time I stand on stage. The sweating and shaking is now gone. The nerves are still there but I know this too will pass with time.
We all have different beliefs; one person’s political or religious beliefs will be different from the next persons. Some beliefs work for us and some don’t. One person may believe they can achieve anything and the next may belief they are a failure. Are they facts or truths?? No, they are just beliefs. A fact can be proved true. For example, it is a fact that Mars is the fourth planet from the sun. I know the sun rises every morning and sets every evening. Fact and truth.
I’m sure you have heard of the saying; if you believe you can, or if you believe you can’t then you are most probably right!
If you believe you won’t win that job promotion, or you believe you can’t progress further in your career, well chances are you won’t.
Beliefs are very powerful and influence how our lives play out. They are like a lens we look through and filter many of the decisions we make every day.
Most of our beliefs are deep routed in our unconscious mind. Trying to change them consciously can be a bit like trying to shift a boulder with a tooth pick!
Limiting Beliefs can be changed – Ask yourself; is this belief I have the truth? Is it limiting me from where I want to be? Can I change it? Is it limiting me from showing up each day as the best version of myself?
We all feel discomfort when stepping outside of our comfort zones, but anxiety and panic attacks do not need to be part of it – changing fear based emotions and limiting beliefs is often the quickest and easiest things that we can learn to overcome.
During a session, I help change any fears or limiting beliefs that are holding you back – AND teach you the skills and techniques that I use, so it’s something you will always have. Helping you to be prepared for whatever life may throw at you.
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Overthinking can be like having an unwanted roommate running around inside your head – the incessant chitter chatter of the monkey mind.
First lets ask, how many thoughts does the average person have in a day?
Research has found that the average person has approximately 60,000 thoughts a day. What is more surprising, the same research found that 80% of them are negative and 95% are the same ones we had yesterday!
Whatever way you look at it, there is far too much negative repetitive thinking going on with too many of us every day.
No other life on this planet thinks like we do, or are conscious of time like we are.
Most of our thinking requires time, psychological time, the ability to recall yesterday to prepare for tomorrow. But it will only ever be NOW; the present moment.
We can never return to the past or travel to the future, but we can do by thinking about it, this is psychological time.
Depressive style of thinking, is thinking about the past because of built up anger, resentment, grief, guilt or shame. Anyone who suffers from anxiety has a perceived fear of the future.
If you are experiencing any problems in your life as you are reading this now, I almost guarantee that it will either involve something in the past or something in the future—our thinking problems need time—psychological time.
If you have a problem that needs dealt with now, deal with it now. But if you are at home thinking about problems at work, or at work thinking about problems at home, the only way we can keep these problems in your mind is to THINK about them.
No amount of ruminating about the past is going to change anything. The past is where it belongs. Learn, forgive, let go.
If you have to prepare for something in the future; then prepare. Worrying about potential problems is pointless if they are never actually going to happen, and robbing you of life’s joys that are happening now.
“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.” – Mark Twain.
How then can we tame this monkey mind, how can we put him back in his cage and quieten the chatter and internal dialogue?
What many of us try to do is fix our thinking problems with the same level of thinking that created our thinking problems and that’s when we can end up digging a deeper and deeper whole for ourselves.
To put it another way, we try to use the Monkey to fix our thinking problems, when the Monkey IS the problem!
Our thinking mind makes a wonderful tool but a terrible master.
The best thing you can do is think less, do something else, anything. Don’t sit and dwell on things. Go for walk, go to the gym, read a book, visit or call a friend, anything to get your mind off it.
There are times when our mind naturally becomes quiet, for example;
You know when you are trying to solve a problem and the more you think about it, the further away answer becomes. Then after a night’s sleep when you first wake in the morning or when you’re in the shower and you have that aha moment, like a lightbulb moment and the answer is then there that you have been seeking for so long. This happens because of less thinking, not more.
When your mind is quiet there is then space for your innate wisdom, insight and intuition to shine through.
Things that work quickly to help quieten your thinking mind are; exercise, walking, meditation and hypnosis.
Through my coaching work I find myself helping children, teenagers and adults who are suffering from the effects of overthinking.
Overthinking can be at the root cause of depression, anxiety, stress, worrying or feeling insecure and self-conscious.
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What is social anxiety?
Anxiety is our bodies way of ringing a fire alarm for a fire that might happen, but never does.
Our anxious behaviour happens unconsciously, from our unconscious mind, this is why we feel like we never have any control over it.
The primary role of our unconscious mind is to look after us; to protect the body.
Why do we get anxious ?
Anxiety is something we learn to do, nobody is born anxious, you never see babies suffering from anxiety while learning to walk. What happens overtime as we grow up, is that we learn our anxious behaviour from our life experiences and environment. What happens is our unconscious mind gets confused and thinks it is protecting us from a perceived danger.
For example lots of people suffer from anxiety who do any form of public speaking, and it’s the unconscious mind’s way of protecting us from the perceived danger of what could go wrong, like forgetting or stumbling our words, or all of these people looking at me etc.
Then what happens is we give in to our anxiety, and we avoid the things that make us feel anxious. But then what can often happen is our anxiety starts to creep into other more basic areas of our daily lives, like social engagements, flying or even just going to the supermarket.
How can we overcome anxiety?
First we need to ask what we want instead of anxiety? And this is normally we want want to feel more relaxed and confident.
When I’m working with a client who suffers from anxiety, we look for an area in their life where they feel relaxed and confident, this can be something like a hobby or a sport, or even just out walking on the beach or spending time with family.
I then make changes in the unconscious mind to replace the anxious response with the more desired response of confidence and relaxation.
The changes I make happen quickly and easily.
If you suffer from anxiety, you are suffering needlessly.
Overcome your anxiety and book a session with me NOW.
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